two of my friends are going through major life altering changes. its taking a great emotional toll on them. i feel so bloody helpless that i can't do anything to make things easier.
its such a bunch of crap to profess support, what can you bloody well do? you can't bear the emotional bruising on behalf of them , you CANNOT share the pain no matter what the shiny pop-psychology sprouting volumes say, and empathy - feeling the emotion, albeit second hand - does absolutely nothing to make things better for the people concerned.
i can only be witness to rage and sadness, i can only be witness to grief and an attempt to move on beyond that, i cannot do anything more. i can't heal them , i can't make things as good as new. i can only fail my friends. i wish i knew how to be a better person.